If God says it's not good for man to be alone, why do people make others feel bad for not wanting to be alone?
I am utterly tired of well meaning Christians who preach at singles to just be in love with Jesus and you should just love yourself...that's baloney. Yes, Jesus should be the lover of our soul, but that doesn't take care of the need of having a sexual, earthly mate. God would have never made Eve had He not had a intentional reason for Adam to have a wife. Marriage is a good thing. It's God's plan and His way to show His mirrored relationship of Jesus as the Groom and the Church as His bride.
If you're already married...that's great! Be blessed...
But if you see or hear of a single sister or brother in Christ who desires to be married too, don't belittle their need, feelings, or desire to have what you have. It comes off as uncaring and judgmental. Seriously. Just pray for them to be blessed with a godly mate. Single people shouldn't have to feel bad for desiring what God designed them to be and want in the first place...and it doesn't mean they are less spiritual, less of a Christian, or weak for wanting to be married. ~ A Modern Day Ruth
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ReplyDeleteI find myself in just that position, I am alone and desirous of a mate - but I am also aware that HE wants what is best for me; in fact, since HE LOVES me more than I love myself, and HE knows so much better than do I what is in my best interest (and that includes the possibility of never having a mate) that I must have patience and wait for HIM to provide .. Perhaps HE is making me into what I am searching for ..
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ReplyDeleteThanks, I feel the same way...
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ReplyDeleteYes,yes,yes! I was talking to the Lord about this same thing! I couldn't understand why Christians address this issue this way. The Lord Himself saw Adam and said it wasn't good for him to be alone so then why is it so wrong for me to desire a mate? Thank you for confirming what was in my heart all along
ReplyDeleteYes,yes,yes! I was talking to the Lord about this same thing! I couldn't understand why Christians address this issue this way. The Lord Himself saw Adam and said it wasn't good for him to be alone so then why is it so wrong for me to desire a mate? Thank you for confirming what was in my heart all along
ReplyDeleteInteresting enough me and my dad did Genesis this weekend and also did the part where Adam sought a helpmate or equal between the animals that he was supposed to give names to.I agree it sometimes feel a bit biased if people say a person should feel ok being alone, but to a person who loses their partner or divorced everyone jumps in to help look for a partner again.Just a opinion.
ReplyDeleteInteresting enough me and my dad did Genesis this weekend and also did the part where Adam sought a helpmate or equal between the animals that he was supposed to give names to.I agree it sometimes feel a bit biased if people say a person should feel ok being alone, but to a person who loses their partner or divorced everyone jumps in to help look for a partner again.Just a opinion.
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ReplyDeleteYes, and Amen! It conveys the message that somehow married people earned the blessing because they achieved some place of spiritual superiority. We all need Him alike, and it is indeed good to desire the things God intended! he sets the lonely in families..he is a good father!
ReplyDeleteIt's funny (and it times infuriating) when this type of advice comes from married people who really don't get it.
DeleteI have vowed to stop allowing such people to discourage with their garbage and just leave it all in God's hands, and have faith in Him and his exciting life plan for me!
Well said thankyou
ReplyDeleteThank you so so much for this!!!
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely right, God DID say it wasn't good to be alone yet so many well meaning Christians seem to forget that bit when they're preaching the "Be in love Jesus" sermon.
Yes, we should be in love with Jesus but He also made us as social and relational beings, and it's normal and natural to at least wonder if we'll find someone and marry someday.
The only advice I would ever give a single person (I'm single myself) is to just pray for it and follow His guidance whatever that may be because only He know what your life plan is and only He understands your heart, needs etc, and He understands those things more than any human could.
Thank you for taking the time to address this issue. Your remarks ring true to the Spirit of the Father and the way He designed us to operate as mated pairs, male and female. Not operate in a vacuum. It brings to mind the piece of Scripture where Yeshua discusses the poor man who comes to the house of worship on Sabbath Day only to be told he has to sit at the feet of the well dressed. Flip it around where the married are the rich and well dressed and the lonely single person the poor man then you can see the parody. It is a sad joke played out in too many churches.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with this 100%
ReplyDeleteThank you for posting this!
ReplyDeleteI think it's really hard for married couples to understand how terrible it can feel to be physically alone, to not have that physical touch, that connection with the opposite gender, that empty spot in your heart filled and the sharing of all of life's experiences, especially if they haven't been single in a long time.
I have such a strong desire to find my helpmate, a woman to love even more than myself, to cherish, share intimacy, protect, honor, teach, learn from, laugh with, cry with, worship God with, support each other in our capable ways and to even raise children together if that's an option. I'm even willing to adopt, they are many children needing a family.
I firmly believe that in God's plan men and women should be paired. Even the animals on the ark were in pairs. It's in many places in the Bible.
Genesis 2:18 NKJV — And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
Proverbs 18:22 NKJV — He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD.
Ecclesiastes 9:9 NKJV — Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and in the labor which you perform under the sun.
Ephesians 5:28 NKJV — So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.
Ephesians 5:33 NKJV — Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
I have faith that the Heavenly Father is working behind the scenes to help me find my other half. I can't help but wonder how much effort I need to put into making it happen, it's not like my perfect bride will just come knocking on my door. Or is it..?
Looking for my Ruth is not easy! It takes patience, humility and faith especially since the dating pool for a compatible woman of faith is pretty small in this day and age.
Respectfully
Boaz in training
Thank you. I've had married Christians say you just need to wait for God to open that door and some are meant to be married. Of which I politely respond well that's easy for you to say because your married.
ReplyDeleteThank you. I've had married Christians say you just need to wait for God to open that door and some are meant to be married. Of which I politely respond well that's easy for you to say because your married.
ReplyDeleteI don't know how I found myself here (but really I do) but this has blessed my heart. And made me cry. And gave me hope. It's okay to want a husband because God created me that way. I don't have to feel guilty. I have waited so long and have been ready to give up and then something like this article comes along. It gives me hope again, but I am afraid that it is getting my hopes up for no reason. But I have to remember God is not taunting me.
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